Jealousy Is Just Misplaced Admiration

An instant cure for jealousy.

Jealousy is a perverted form of admiration – in effect, “admiration, negatively expressed.”

Why would anyone resort to jealousy, when admiration is an alternative?

Two reasons: (1) we are insecure about our own talents and achievements; and (2) we have assumed that we can’t learn much from others and/or they would be unwilling to teach us.

It’s ok to feel a little insecure about yourself, it’s totally normal. The place to break jealousy is in the second limb.

Adopt a growth mindset, openly and proudly express your admiration for the person in question and, if possible, ask if they would be willing to teach you how best to learn their craft over a lunch.

If they accept, congratulations, you’ve just scored a friend and a mentor. You will naturally grow to admire such a person.

If they are arrogant or dismissive, say to yourself: “I admire their achievements but not their character. That’s not who I want to be.” It’s impossible to feel jealous of that person after that, only sympathy.

Practise this philosophy and you’ll never again feel jealous of anyone, at anytime, anywhere.