The Importance of Consistent Appreciation

To young leaders.

Appreciation is a feeling – it’s far more a function of frequency than it is of magnitude.

Magnitude is apprehended by the mind. Frequency by the emotions.

This is why helping someone with an interest-free loan of $100,000 (or $1 million for that matter) will garner less appreciation than buying them a cup of coffee twice a week.

One-off gestures of generosity will generate a big initial impact, but the appreciation will rarely last for more than 12-months. Grand gestures such as these are quickly forgotten and – strange as it may seem – are often rationalised as a form of restitution for past injustices.

Remember that, when you are next tempted to pay a colleague a large one-off bonus or render them a big favour. Better by far to spread the favour over a series of smaller amounts and across a number of months/years.

The same applies to relationships. Swimming with a colleague twice a week will generate more depth of relationship than a 3-month holiday together once a decade.

As my brother, Dr Shane Geha, is fond of saying: “Relationships are like pot plants. They need to be regularly watered.” Drenching them but once a year is unlikely to do them enduring good.
To young leaders.

Appreciation is a feeling – it’s far more a function of frequency than it is of magnitude.

Magnitude is apprehended by the mind. Frequency by the emotions.

This is why helping someone with an interest-free loan of $100,000 (or $1 million for that matter) will garner less appreciation than buying them a cup of coffee twice a week.

One-off gestures of generosity will generate a big initial impact, but the appreciation will rarely last for more than 12-months. Grand gestures such as these are quickly forgotten and – strange as it may seem – are often rationalised as a form of restitution for past injustices.

Remember that, when you are next tempted to pay a colleague a large one-off bonus or render them a big favour. Better by far to spread the favour over a series of smaller amounts and across a number of months/years.

The same applies to relationships. Swimming with a colleague twice a week will generate more depth of relationship than a 3-month holiday together once a decade.

As my brother, Dr Shane Geha, is fond of saying: “Relationships are like pot plants. They need to be regularly watered.” Drenching them but once a year is unlikely to do them enduring good.
To young leaders.

Appreciation is a feeling – it’s far more a function of frequency than it is of magnitude.

Magnitude is apprehended by the mind. Frequency by the emotions.

This is why helping someone with an interest-free loan of $100,000 (or $1 million for that matter) will garner less appreciation than buying them a cup of coffee twice a week.

One-off gestures of generosity will generate a big initial impact, but the appreciation will rarely last for more than 12-months. Grand gestures such as these are quickly forgotten and – strange as it may seem – are often rationalised as a form of restitution for past injustices.

Remember that, when you are next tempted to pay a colleague a large one-off bonus or render them a big favour. Better by far to spread the favour over a series of smaller amounts and across a number of months/years.

The same applies to relationships. Swimming with a colleague twice a week will generate more depth of relationship than a 3-month holiday together once a decade.

As my brother, Dr Shane Geha, is fond of saying: “Relationships are like pot plants. They need to be regularly watered.” Drenching them but once a year is unlikely to do them enduring good.
To young leaders.

Appreciation is a feeling – it’s far more a function of frequency than it is of magnitude.

Magnitude is apprehended by the mind. Frequency by the emotions.

This is why helping someone with an interest-free loan of $100,000 (or $1 million for that matter) will garner less appreciation than buying them a cup of coffee twice a week.

One-off gestures of generosity will generate a big initial impact, but the appreciation will rarely last for more than 12-months. Grand gestures such as these are quickly forgotten and – strange as it may seem – are often rationalised as a form of restitution for past injustices.

Remember that, when you are next tempted to pay a colleague a large one-off bonus or render them a big favour. Better by far to spread the favour over a series of smaller amounts and across a number of months/years.

The same applies to relationships. Swimming with a colleague twice a week will generate more depth of relationship than a 3-month holiday together once a decade.

As my brother, Dr Shane Geha, is fond of saying: “Relationships are like pot plants. They need to be regularly watered.” Drenching them but once a year is unlikely to do them enduring good.
To young leaders.

Appreciation is a feeling – it’s far more a function of frequency than it is of magnitude.

Magnitude is apprehended by the mind. Frequency by the emotions.

This is why helping someone with an interest-free loan of $100,000 (or $1 million for that matter) will garner less appreciation than buying them a cup of coffee twice a week.

One-off gestures of generosity will generate a big initial impact, but the appreciation will rarely last for more than 12-months. Grand gestures such as these are quickly forgotten and – strange as it may seem – are often rationalised as a form of restitution for past injustices.

Remember that, when you are next tempted to pay a colleague a large one-off bonus or render them a big favour. Better by far to spread the favour over a series of smaller amounts and across a number of months/years.

The same applies to relationships. Swimming with a colleague twice a week will generate more depth of relationship than a 3-month holiday together once a decade.

As my brother, Dr Shane Geha, is fond of saying: “Relationships are like pot plants. They need to be regularly watered.” Drenching them but once a year is unlikely to do them enduring good.